Children are motivated by one thing the most- the need to receive love and appreciation by adults in their life. The most important adults for them are their parents and their teachers. Realizing that is key to stepping back and really understanding your child’s behavior. Only then you can provide positive solutions for your child without reacting to the your child’s uniques personality, but rather guiding them into better actions. As a teacher I see this every day. I know that when I have I have been able to see the real motivation behind kids actions, I have also been able to provide much better positive discipline solutions. For example, this was the end of a very long week! In fact it has been a long week of a very long school year. As rewarding being a teacher is, my work gets very emotionally draining sometimes. Working with many families and many different types of challenges. You work with all sorts of different kids. And yet…
- the student who comes from a wonderful supportive family and wants to be the best student in class.
- the student who lost a parent and needs extra support dealing with the loss.
- the student with behavior problems who is trying to get attention by acting out.
They all share one thing
DO WE REALIZE HOW MUCH CHILDREN NEED OUR APPROVAL?
DO WE USE IT WISELY?
And most important:
DO WE KNOW THE BALANCE BETWEEN NEVER GOOD ENOGH AND GETTING TOO MUCH ATTENTION?