Children are all unique in their development. They have different strengths and needs. In the journey of musical development your child will develop some skills with ease, and will have difficulties with others. It is all a part of the process. Your child may be having a hard day, they may misbehave in class, some of the techical skills may be acquired at a speed different than their peers. It can be difficult for a parent to observe this and to remain objective.
Here are a few thought on keeping this in perspective
- Think about each of your kids struggles as a natural step of their development. It is just like everything else in parenting, you need to observe your child and help them the best you can. Often the best support is patience.
- Think about your child making a mistake in life. You need to support them to get back on their feet on their own and learn from their mistakes as opposed to taking charge and doing things for them. Let your child find a way to grow from their mistakes.
- Be complemenary to your child as they are achieving progress, even if it is very small steps. For example if they are struggling with a bowing of a piece, and make a progress by learning just one measure, congratulate them for it! It will make them want to work harder!
- Try not to take your child’s progress personally. This can be very difficult for some parents if there is a behavior issue involved. Your child may act out in class, be less prepared on a given day, they may be very shy participating in a group class, etc. Try to see this as just one more skill that you need to add to your assignmens. Behavior needs to be practiced and developed, just like they are practicing their music.
More on different ways to practice for discipline and behavior in next blog. Wait for it.